Friday, January 30, 2009
A Big Sister's LOVE
It was years ago that Lauren first started asking about a sibling and began praying for a baby brother or sister. The gender mattered not to her, only that her wish be granted. How blessed and incredibly fortunate we all feel to have this family dream coming true!
During this wait for our son and baby brother, Lauren has often grown weary of the delays and struggled to understand the nuances of time lines and the tangled lines of bureaucracy. It was on one of those days we decided to help her write a book detailing all the things she hoped to one day do with her beloved baby brother.
Our story began last summer, just after we received our miracle referral, but before our "little man" had a first name. :) The story is actually quite long and each of the sentences was dictated by Lauren with minimal support. We then typed each page and she has been working hard all these months to illustrate her book. Our next step is to make several color copies, laminate each page and bind at least 3 copies into books. One for Lauren.....one for Tyler....one for us.
I can't even begin to share how amazing I think this book is......yep, I'm biased, but I'm really talking about the love & hope that went into its creation. It has been a wonderful way to involve her in this process and what an incredible keepsake for us all.
Best of all, Lauren plans to actually read this book to Tyler over the years and maybe someday he will wish to pen the second in the series! Or they can together!
The book is about 25 pages long and she has dedicated it to Tyler Pei-En.... *sniffle* I can't share it all, but here is a sampling........thanks for reading along with us!
Monday, January 26, 2009
Our Favorite Update Yet!
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Leaving on a Jet Plane!!
So much yet to do, but thankfully all the big things are in place. We hope & pray that other families awaiting AIT dates will hear something soon too, as well as, families awaiting other important milestones and news!
6 years ago as we awaited news of our baby girl I didn't have access to this amazing community of fellow adoptive families. Blogs were not yet mainstream and we had actually never met a family who had adopted from Kazakhstan until well after our travels/adoption were finalized. So to say that this has been a tremendous support network for our family underscores how blessed I feel to have connected in this way with so many of you. Following along with your journeys, witnessing both the frustrations & delays....celebrating as families are brought together through the gift and miracle of adoption........how fortunate I feel to be sharing this adventure with you all! And how truly thankful I am for the love & support that has been sent our way from all of you, our friends & family.
I promise to keep you all posted with further developments!! And I've always wanted to say........we are leaving on a jet plane! ( soon ) :)
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
A Big Sigh & Cribz
And just cuz I can't leave a post on a downward note, thought maybe some of you would like to see a few pictures of our nursery. What a difference this has been decorating for a baby boy, but it has been FUN! We are using the same crib & dresser that we used with Lauren, but everything else is different. Its turned out to be an eclectic mix and you will definitely see some blank walls; we hope to bring back some treasures from Taiwan to add to his decor. when we return home!
AND, next time I post it will be either with our travel dates (oh, pretty please) OR updates. Either way, it will be good news! :) Hoping you are all doing well and that those of you waiting the hard wait are surrounded by much love & support!
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
Final Ruling!!!!!!!!!!!!!
In the past when a family would receive their Final Ruling they were generally given immediate travel dates and an AIT appointment. (AIT issues the Visa for baby's travel!) We have learned that AIT is implementing new procedures and will only translate documents related to the case and issue an appointment following submission of the Final Ruling. So this means we will wait an extra week or two for news of our appointment and subsequent travel dates. We are still hopeful travel will be in January but cannot say for certain! ( Remember those unexpected twists & turns I mentioned in my last post! :) )
No matter what though, this amazing & long awaited news marks the end of our court process and Tyler Pei-En is legally our son. We could not be more proud, delighted, blessed and excited!! I'm so very happy to share this news with you all!
We are coming Baby Boy!!
Sunday, January 4, 2009
What I Have Learned......
** I have learned to embrace every family's adoption story as unique, beautiful and invaluable to better understanding the overall adoptive process, while also recognizing that no two experiences or timelines will be exactly the same.
** I have learned that tenacity, faith and even sometimes luck are required to see this process through from beginning to end. And that sometimes even that is not enough..... actually I would quantify this statement with LOTS OF LUCK needed :) .....
** I have learned that support is invaluable. Support from family members, friends, adoptive groups, your agency....all are necessary and instrumental.
** I have also learned that said support can come in many forms: from the friend who calls unexpectedly to ask how your adoption is progressing, to the family member who listens patiently & with compassion while you tearfully share your fears & anxieties along the way; to the surprise gift that arrives for your baby, or to the kind email or blog comment sent by someone across the country who has walked in your footsteps ( or is currently sharing the path ) and simply understands.......incredible!
** I have learned there is no shame in accepting help( that can be hard for me) and admitting that the process can sometimes be bigger than we are capable of managing alone. Similarly I understand that reaching out the hand of support on our good days to someone who may be struggling brings unexpected blessings and strength.
** I have learned that the devil is in the details. Check, double check & recheck all the facts at every step along the road!
** I have learned that like all major life events, perseverance is critical and adoption(or parenting for that matter!) is not for the faint of heart.
** I now understand better the legacy each of these miracle children bring to our families. With them comes the echo of a rich, beautiful and vibrant culture.....the imprint of a distant land....the hopes, dreams, wishes and sacrifices of a birth family. International adoption at its best bridges the gap between cultures and creates families with an inherent understanding and appreciation of world cultures. I have learned newfound respect for so much.
** I have learned that friendships can be forged unexpectedly and in the most unexpected of places throughout this journey. ( You all know who I'm talking about!) Priceless & thank you everyone!!
** I have learned that when I thought I couldn't tolerate another day of the agonizing wait, I somehow was able to....& that often others have waited even longer.
** I have learned that God rarely gives us more than we are capable of handling.
** I have been honored to accept & understand that sometimes its God's unanswered prayers that shine the brightest and give us our best gifts. Often when we least expect it too!
** I have learned to never take a day for granted with our precious daughter( and the cherished son we are awaiting)....I know something bigger than our love & plans brought us & keeps us together. I am humbled by that thought.
**** AND I have learned that I won't number the above reflections or use the words "finally"....for I know well that about the time I think I've seen or experienced it all, a new twist or wrinkle will take us soaring around an unexpected turn or loop. And I know for certain, that I am a better person for the ride! I have also learned to hold on with both hands! ;)
May this coming week find you all happy & well and bring good news to all waiting families!